Worries: You're just not that into them.

While in Greece a few weeks ago, I nonchalantly* asked my husband** if we could stop by this bookstore I'd read about online, Atlantis Books. It's what I imagine a bookstore in Hogsmeade would look like. We spent over an hour in the sweet little shop- talking to the folks in charge for the winter who had just arrived a few days prior from Pittsburgh; playing with the four puppies who called Atlantis Books home; and looking at all the books in every nook and cranny in the shop. It was perfect. 

I walked away with a cookbook, a journal, a novel and this print. 

It's the He's Just Not That Into You for worries! What I love about it is that without scolding you, the print is suggesting that you stop worrying and take action. Think about a project that has consumed (or is currently consuming) your thoughts. Once you started working on it, even just the initial planning, did it seem a little more manageable? I've found that this is often the case- even if there are more steps than anticipated, at least I have a course of action.

What I am suggesting is for you to be proactive instead of reactive. This can mean different things for different people- for me it's looking ahead at the calendar to see what's coming up, and planning around that (proactive) vs. scrambling as deadlines whoosh by (reactive). 

And if there is no action you can take? You've turned in your project, submitted your proposal, or have done all the planning and are now waiting to cross that goal off your list?  If there is nothing you can do about it, whatever it is to you, then don't worry.

No, you can't do anything about it. This is the beautiful part: don't worry. Why not use your bandwidth to worry about something that does have a task or action you can complete.  It's similar to the way the "he or she is just not that into you" saying has freed many hours of obsessing and worrying about "will they call?" and just getting on with their lives.

As a recovering worrier, this has been a bit of a breakthrough for me. When I find that I simply can't stop worrying, I just make lists: to do lists, mini-goals, grocery lists, and that helps me move forward and create a game plan.

What about you? Any tips that help decrease needless worrying? Have you already had this breakthrough? What do you do with all that extra brain-space?


*Talked about incessantly

**First time to write this!